The Truth, Say It or Don't

This is really very true.  I posted my first blog yesterday and it upset some people.  I will not say that I am sorry or that I was wrong.  I will however again say that this blog is for me.  Therefore I am going to continue to be open and honest.  If you have a problem with that or it upsets you then you should contact me or Jeff.  Or you can stop reading it.  Nothing I post here is meant to be hurtful to anyone.  I don't think I need to keep what I am going through private.  I would scream it from roof tops.  "Infertility sucks!!!!"  It does.  I hate infertility I don't hate the fertile.  Those are two different things.  So I plan to continue to post the truth... which will set you free but it will piss you off first. 


So let's talk about the things that people do that they really should not.

Yes, people say stupid stuff and do things they think is protecting you when it isn't.  


There are a few things I will never ask someone when I first meet them and some things I will never say in general..

• Do you have kids?
• Why don't you have kids?
• When are you going to start trying?
• It will happen when the time is right.
• When you give up it will happen.
• Just relax it will happen.
• Try and forget about it.
• You worry too much.

I mean there are a million other things but these are the few I can think of right off the top of my head.


Then the protection piece... some protection you need.  My sister-in-law is awesome.  She will txt me when she knows baby shower invites are in the mail so I have advanced notice.  As did one of Jeff's cousins.  That is a huge help.  I know it is coming and I can deal with it.  I love that.


Another great thing was when our friend called me the day she found our she was pregnant.  She told me first so that I wasn't shocked and upset when I heard it from someone else.  It was a huge help.  Those that avoid telling me just make it 100% worse.  

So the truth is that some protection is great, but too much protection is not good.


The other thing that happens a lot is I hide people on Facebook.  People who I have known for a very long time and that I am happy they can have their start at a family, yup I hide them.  I don't want to read about the maternity clothes shopping or the super wonderful stroller that they found for just $80.  I don't want to see it because it upsets me.  Again yes I am a jealous jealous whore!  So I hide those people.  It is just easier on me.


Today I called my sister and asked her how my first blog made her feel.  She said she was fine with it.  She wasn't upset or anything.  That made me feel pretty good.  She was extremely supportive.


I guess in the end, that is the thing about truth, it just is what it is.  I am being open and honest because I feel I need to be.  The great thing about this is, if you don't care for it you don't have to read it.  That is ok with me.  As of this moment my blog has been up for less than 24 hours and has been viewed over 100 time.  So either I have one really crazed fan, or people are interested in what I have to say.  I am going to go with the one fan for now.